LORIEN & JESS TIE THE KNOT IN STYLE

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Lorien Gabel and Jessica Lichtenstein, Nevada desert wedding
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Lorien & Jess
Tie the Knot in Style

A surprise wedding in the Nevada desert. A film. Two hundred friends who had no idea.

Tech entrepreneur Lorien Gabel and artist Jessica Lichtenstein got married in the desert outside Las Vegas with a three-person film crew and a bottle of something. Three weeks later they told everyone.

Nevada Desert  ·  Las Vegas Lorien Gabel  ·  pingg.com Jessica Lichtenstein  ·  Girl5
We had already spoken with both of them separately, and then they went and did this. We are delighted to have been part of their world when it happened.

Antakly Projects had already interviewed both of them: Lorien Gabel, co-founder of pingg.com, the online invitation platform, and artist Jessica Lichtenstein of Girl5. We knew who they were. We did not know what they were about to do.

The pair had been together for years, both famously commitment-phobic, perfectly happy remaining what Lorien called a "commitment-phobic committed couple." Then Jessica said the sentence that became the plan: "The only way you could get me to show up at my own wedding is if I didn't know it was a wedding."

So they eloped to the Nevada desert outside Las Vegas with a three-person film crew made up of close friends: directors, camera operators, editors. They got married surrounded by sand, wind, rusted cans, and the golden hour light you can see in this photograph. They kept it completely secret for three weeks.

Then they invited 200 of their closest friends to what everyone was told was a combined 30th and 40th birthday party in New York, using Lorien's own platform to send the invitation. The day of the party, they screened the film: a David Lynch meets Oliver Stone scripted movie, with the surprise ending, footage of their actual ceremony. The room erupted. The couple who had not cried at their own wedding were brought to tears by their friends' reactions.

"The only way you could get me to show up at my own wedding is if I didn't know it was a wedding."
Jessica Lichtenstein

In Lorien's Own Words

Written after the party  ·  Published on the pingg blog

"If you would have told me three years ago, when we first thought of the idea for pingg, that I would be using pingg to send my surprise wedding invitation and video, I would have thought you'd eaten one too many crazy tacos. Not because I had an aversion to online invitations, quite the opposite, but because I had an aversion to, hmmm, how can I put this delicately, commitment in general.

Now don't get me wrong. I am a firm believer in love and have quite the old fashioned Shakespearian notions about romance and chivalry, and yes I do cry at romantic comedies. But having made it to the ripe old age of 40 never having said 'I do,' I thought I could stay happily unmarried-ever-after with someone I loved for the rest of my life. Luckily, I met a woman who felt the same way.

We started from scratch, boiling the wedding down to its essentials, what we would want out of a wedding. We knew we wanted people to see a part of our ceremony, but not necessarily sit through it in real time. We knew we wanted to celebrate with people, but we didn't want the first dances, the toasts, the cutting and smearing of cakes.

The final idea: we got married in Vegas in the middle of a desert, surrounded by sand, wind, rusted cans, and a three-person camera crew. The place erupted. And my wife and I, who didn't even cry at our own ceremony, were brought to tears by ours and our friends' reactions.

I'd like to thank The Sibs for making us look like rock stars. Our party planners and caterers, Silk Stone. And lastly, but not least, my wife, for always remaining my girlfriend."

Lorien Gabel
"The decisions you make along the way, the details you choose, can in a sense liberate you."
Lorien Gabel

Congratulations, Lorien and Jess.
With love.

Leila Antakly
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